Cafe Hitch-hike

2009-12-08

Friend Gone Wild

(Blowing off steam, here...)

Over the weekend, a person who will remain unidentified called me with news of their fun-filled weekend. Well... they ran into the best friend of their ex-, and one thing lead to another. It takes two to tango, but when they told me of this event, I said, "well, the friend just broke one of the main rules between friends, and that's not to date or do their ex."

"I sure hope you or they never say anything," I concluded, "or the ex- will absolutely hate you, or that 7-year friendship (between the best friend and ex-) is over."

"Well, (the ex) probably doesn't or wouldn't care," replied my friend.

"Perhaps, but this is just what I've seen," I said, and no more.

I've been avoiding this person lately. Sometimes I can't handle them. Their intense feelings are too much for me at times. I also get a bit bothered because of their lack of self-control. We've talked about a lot of things about life and relationships, and this person is doing everything we swore we'd never do to ourselves.

It hurts to see a person so unhappy, yet doing so many crazy things.

I then got an email with a photo attached. This unnamed person crashed their car, and under the radiator was a shrub.

I don't think they were drinking, but the point was they really have been out of control lately.

The other piece of this is the person is as stubborn as the sky is blue. I can't say or do anything to get this person to change their ways. I can say things to get them to think, maybe, but... they always will make their decision.

I can't say I've been perfect. If anything, I've been doing some pretty uncharacteristic things since I've moved to south Florida. I got a job in a cabaret, I started hanging out a bit more. I got involved with a wild person (I'm glad to report that's past tense and nothing has been rekindled despite last week's email). I guess the point is... I haven't been dragging myself in and out of misery.

We'll see what happens...

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